Question by Jessica Harvey: My boyfriend has been texting another girl, what should I do?
We have been together 1 year and 4 months. I am currently 37 weeks pregnant. He never gave me any reason not to trust him before we live together he is always with me if he is not at work. I went to turn his phone off the other morning and for the first time in our entire relationship I looked through his phone and noticed two girls he was texting. He was calling them boo boo and babe and one of the girls sent him pictures (not naked or bad at all just a picture of herself dressed up in the mirror) and his reply was “I already got that one women you trying to be slick” so I have no idea how long this has been going on. He says it hasn’t been more then a month but one of the girls I know he just got her number. Later when I asked he said these girls were his coworkers. I never been in a relationship where I had so much trust for someone and now I just feel so hurt dumb and betrayed. I tried breaking up with him and I told him he needs to move out and we are done and he can talk to as many girls as he wants. He says he’s so sorry and he’s done talking to them and he never meant to hurt me and he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me and he doesn’t want to be with anyone else and we have a family and I can’t give up on that. I love him very much but father of my child or not I don’t want to be mistreated and I don’t know if I will ever be able to trust him again…I understand people flirt with coworkers that’s expected but when you take it out of work your crossing a line. I don’t know if I should break up our home that was/is so full of love or give him a second chance and try to rebuild my trust. It’s a hard situation. He says I owe him a second chance because 4 months after we were together I had some friends at my apartment and I went to bed with my best girl friend and during the night my guy friend got off the couch and came and layed with the two of us but early in the morning my girl friend got up and left and he came to my house and seen this guy in bed with me and even though I know nothing happened, he didn’t and gave me a second chance and rebuilt his trust for me and now look how far we have come…and I get where he is coming from but in my mind I know I didn’t do anything wrong and I didn’t have control of the kid laying in my bed whereas he intentionally contacted these girls got their numbers was calling them names he calls me and sending pictures… any advice of personal testimonials would be great I am very confused.
Answer by Driving naked 69
Look. We all F up….. We are not perfect.
Give him another chance. If he does it again than….
time to move on. Fair???
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