Question by David: How do i get the self-confidence to talk to girls I like.?
I’m not very self confident and I have a lot of trouble talking to girls that I like because I’m afraid I’ll mess something up or they will think I’m ugly. I avoid mirrors because I hate seeing myself because I can always pull out the bad things in me, and I just need help growing my self confidence and learning how to get better at talking to girls. Please Help me
Best answer:
Answer by Morpheus
Well – you just have a bad self image – that happens a lot – and it will pass away in time.
If you have sisters, try treating the girls like a sister – say hi – be friendly – don’t try to talk to them too much to begin with – maybe ask a question – and then down the road.
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I’m sorry. It’s not good that you don’t even want to look in the mirror, you should be able to pick out one good thing about yourself and not let the bad things control your life. You are not as unattractive as you think, I assure you. I don’t know how old you are but High school girls can be vicious however as you get older you meet girls with similar interests and who are more mature.
To gain self confidence you need to tell yourself that you don’t care what others think, look in the mirror and say that you are who are you and that’s good enough. You can start lifting weights or going to the gym, that’s what my brother did to feel more confident. Join a sport, just don’t focus so much on what the girls think and talk to them normally. Say hi, compliment them, joke. Don’t worry, it gets easier. 🙂
I don’t know how old you are, but it sounds like the issues is bigger than just girls. If you have low self esteem, there needs to be more focus on that and the rest falls into place. Self esteem can come from many things other than looks. Do you sometimes find yourself looking at someone even though they are not extremely attractive? That’s simply because they carry themselves with confidence. My point is that there has to be something you are good at. Always think of that when something you’re bad at comes to mind.. ppl have different skills, and talents .. Girls like guys who are confident. not full of themselves, not shy to talk , just comfortable with themselves.. we are humans of this earth just like you are , so starting out with a normal conversation about march madness, the latest Duaghtery CD…etc , would do. 🙂