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girl text messages found in fiances phone?

Question by km5686: girl text messages found in fiances phone?
My fiance and I had trouble communicating these past couple of months. Seems all too ironic that our life issues both got the best of us and interfered with our relationship. I had begun to experience severe anxiety all the time. Worrying he was secretely doing something behind my back that I would not be happy about; in my world ignorance is NOT bliss – honesty is appreciated though. So I felt like I was having anxiety again and had a huge HUGE hunch that he was reaching out to someone via text message.I made the mistake and went through his phone and found out he was reaching out to someone named “Debbie” and I read through about 5-7 texts between them and it was very nonchalant referencing another girl named “Katie”. The text began my fiance saying to this “Debbie” girl asking her if she joined a gym, if she liked it and that he was thinking about joining soon too. Debbie responded saying “good. do it” and my fiance said “yes probably will” time goes by and my fiance says “give me a call and we will chat about your friend” and Debbie replies “yes, I will find out Katie’s work schedule for this week, I go back on Wednesday” and my fiance goes, “haha ok, I am seeing a girl right now but we are having some issues so who knows whats going to happen, so wouldn’t be wrong just to meet her” and the woman ends with “right.” My heart broke reading that. I then tried to confront my fiance and he got so angry and said “why are you going through my things again?!” I said I couldn’t help it because I had a feeling he was doing something and this only solidifies that?! He denied it and said Debbie was a friend he knew from work and he does not know who Katie is. That I took it the wrong way. Needless to say, we are no longer engaged. I called it off – I gave the ring back to him, I moved out and back in with my parents. We have done counseling and I have brought the text up and each time he denies it. Saying it was work related for a sale that he loves me and lives with me why would he ever think of meeting anyone else. Part of me believes this, but the anxiety stricken part of me worries what if I wasn’t good enough? I am a pretty 26 year old who has unfortunately had a rough past and a divorce already under my belt. I know what I deserve – I have continued to bring this text message issue up because I cannot let go. I am looking for an honest answer and I would respect that if he said “ya know, at the time you and I were having problems and I did think about meeting her friend, but I am sorry and it was very wrong of me and I won’t do it ever again” BUT I have not heard that!? He is really telling the truth? Or is he just believing his own lie and expecting I do the same. He has told me I need to forget about that text – it was nothing and I blew it out of proportion. BUT any normal loving girl wouldn’t forget about something like that…why can’t he understand this? Any idea???
Thing is – he has admitted he made some mistakes (nothing specific though). Said hes not good as communicating and he has somethings he needs to work on. He wants this to work out and part of me does too – but now my walls are up. Do you think I should give him the benefit of the doubt? I feel like I cannot emotionally move past this text message unless I hear what I feel is the truth.

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Answer by Missy
Sounds like he has moved on and unwilling to make it work with you two if he is already setting dates with other women. Ditch this guy, he is isn’t interested in commitment apparently. Good thing you found out now, and not after you married him!

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When a girl says “I’ll text you” before they get off the phone and then they dont. (continued).. ?

Question by Gregory: When a girl says “I’ll text you” before they get off the phone and then they dont. (continued).. ?
If your on the phone with a girl or with a girl and your saying bye and they say “I’ll text you” but they don’t. Are they implying that they really want “you” to text them first because they want to talk but they want you to initiate the conversation?

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Answer by Spencer
Dont be afraid ask her friends

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I need some help with my phone skills talking to girls?

Question by yes me: I need some help with my phone skills talking to girls?
I need some help with my phone skills talking to girls?
Hi I need help talking to a girl on the phone.I am 15 and I am kinda of shy but only when I talk to girls… maybe you could name some topics to talk about??? plz help me out

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Answer by Evie
Talk about your classes at school, what your plans are for the weekend, something interesting you heard on the radio or what happened this week on American Idol. The biggest thing though is to listen and give a bit of feedback. Teenage girls like to talk a lot. Listen,then talk when you have something to add to what they are saying. For the most part the girl will bring up subjects and steer the conversation.

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Q&A: How do you get your boyfriend/girlfriend to stop snooping through your phone?

Question by starrseeed: How do you get your boyfriend/girlfriend to stop snooping through your phone?
I do have to give some background…

Before anyone says, “You should have nothing to hide”… my boyfriend habitually checks and reads my conversations of text messages, (from my girl friends, too!) when I am sleeping or when he needs to “borrow” my phone. And then later on brings up random things he’s read about like days or weeks later if we get in an argument, (so I become aware after the fact that he has been snooping). Example, recently two of my classmates (one of them a girl, and the other gay) and I casually suggesting to hang out some day in the future. He maliciously asks me who the “f***” these people are.. And God forbid if anyone of my old friends texts to say hello. (I’ve had the same number for years).

I am in my early twenties, college student, and I have NEVER been in a relationship where you are expected to tell EVERYONE to f*** off and have no friends. When I met the guy I never imagined I would begin to feel so isolated like this? Anyone with similar situations?

Thanks for reading!

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Answer by Abigail Needham
Password!!! Or just put it in a place he never touches youXD

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Q&A: Can the cops trace someones phone number if it was given to them over a phone call?

Question by Billy thomas: Can the cops trace someones phone number if it was given to them over a phone call?
I’ve been texting this girl and we’ve been sexting but it turns out she lied about her age. Her sister saw a picture and if she were to call the cops and give them my phone number would they go through all the trouble of contacting the phone company and getting all of my information? Could they do anything if my number is under and adults name?

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Answer by k w
why would you send pictures to someone
you never met and don’t really know?!

do you play russian roulette at home as well?!

how about contacting her sister in person
and pleading with her to erase the pictures,
because you were misled as to her age?!

that’s the simplest and most direct approach!

best wishes

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How do I ask a girl for her phone number?

Question by Miguel Ortega: How do I ask a girl for her phone number?
I really want to text this one girl who’s hella hot that sits next to me but I’m one of those really shy people. How do I do it? I don’t know how to start the convo and she’s my friend

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Answer by Jim
First off, if you use phrases such as ‘hella hot’, you’re probably not going to do well with women.

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How do you talk to girls long enough to get their phone number?

Question by That’s your problem: How do you talk to girls long enough to get their phone number?
My friend says I need to be his wingman when he is talking to a girl so he friends can’t cock block. I need tips on talking to girls. None of those “be yourself” tips.I’m not looking for dating conversations like what do you do for fun? (Or is that the only to talk to them?) How do you have a conversation long enough to get their number? What do you talk about?

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Answer by Nels N
Talk about anything. Ask them their opinions. Tell stories, ask them about favorite holidays or whatever. Keep some stories in mind to tell if things stall. You can often lead into these stories with a question. Act non-needy and don’t care about how the interaction goes, and ironically, you should do fine.

If the conversation goes OK, say “I have to get back to my other friends. It was nice talking to you and I’d like to continue out conversation at a later date. What is your phone number?” If you seem normal and you guys have a connection, she should give up the digits. You can also ask for e-mail or facebook information.

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Q&A: How do I talk on the phone to this girl for the first time?

Question by DJ: How do I talk on the phone to this girl for the first time?
I’ve been texting this girl at school for a while and she just called me but I dont how or what to talk to her about. I just met her and I dont want to miss this up with awkward pauses and random things that might pop into my head. I know confidence is the key but when im on the phone with new people my mind goes blank and I dont know what to talk about. Please help!

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Answer by Charlie
Talk about sex. 😀

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How can i get a girl to talk dirty on the phone?

Question by jamesbond420: How can i get a girl to talk dirty on the phone?
ive been texting this girl for a while and i wanna make things sexual. what are some tips on getting the convo hot and sexy. ladies let me know wat works on you and gets u going?

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Answer by Zach G
pay her

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What do I say to a girl on the phone that I can’t see in person?

Question by taylor frederick: What do I say to a girl on the phone that I can’t see in person?
I’m limited to texting this girl that is always working and is leaving in a couple days to go on vacation for a little over a week. She tells me that I don’t talk to her enough but it’s because I want to hang out with her but she’s always working. What are things that I can talk about over text with her that will keep her interested?

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Answer by Mackenzie
Tell her what you think of her. Girls always love when you compliment them and that will defiantly keep them interested in talking to you.

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