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I found an inappropriate conversation my boyfriend had with another girl should I dump him?

Question by Jenette: I found an inappropriate conversation my boyfriend had with another girl should I dump him?
I’m not sure what to make of his. I have found these conversation my boyfriend had with this girl. I think she’s an ex girlfriend. My boyfriend was the one who text her first and asked her questions like if she found a boyfriend yet, and he said she’s still single but interested in someone. My boyfriend then asked her if she still looks at porn and horny. The girl made it clear that he is aware that he’s in a relationship and long story short he had asked her if he still has feelings for him and she said alittle and she asked him the same question and he told her that he can’t answer that question but that she was a really nice girl. He wants to remain in contact with this girl but this girl said that she has to respect that he has a girlfriend so only contact her once in awhile.
There is no possible way to list their entire conversation but this girl appears to be innocent and she doesn’t want to ruin our relationship.
The girl said that she thinks it would be a good idea not to talk anymore and my boyfriend appeared to want to keep in contact with her for whatever reason.

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Answer by Kennedy
i was in a similar situation.. dump him before it gets worse and hurts even more

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Q&A: is it ok to tell boyfriend texting other girls bothers me?

Question by terry: is it ok to tell boyfriend texting other girls bothers me?
We have been exclusive for a couple of months. He asked me to be his girlfriend. At first I felt very confident in our relationship. The more I fall for him however, the more insecure I get. He has a few female friends. I worry when he is texting that it is another girl. There is one person in particular who lives in a different city who I know he texts at least every couple weeks. She is also the first person on his face book friends list. This bothers me a lot especially since he didnt tell me about her, I asked who she is. He said he has known her a long time and doesnt text her very much but that they are into the same things. He is a good guy but I am fearful he has a thing with her.

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Answer by Brandon
Yes

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Should I be upset that my boyfriend is texting other girls?

Question by j f: Should I be upset that my boyfriend is texting other girls?
He claims that they’re just friends, but it still kind of irks me. I know that he loves me, but I’m still kind of jealous.

One of the girls always sends him “good morning” texts, which is something that i do and I also saw that he sent her a text that said, “i’ll bite your ass, i swear i will” (I’m not sure if he meant sexually, or anything, but that REALLY bugged me)

We always talk on the phone while he’s on his break at work, and today he was texting a girl while we were on the phone! I’m sure they’re just friends, but still! I thought that was slightly rude, especially since it was a girl and not one of his buddies or something.

I don’t know,
Should I be upset?! I don’t want to be, but I kind of am. =/

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Answer by Sharks!
Maybe that girl was one of his ‘buddies’

I do not see why people make such a huge deal of people having friends of the opposite sex….

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My boyfriend is texting another girl. should i trust him?

Question by : My boyfriend is texting another girl. should i trust him?
My boyfriend and I have been together 4 and a half years. The first 2 years were really rough. It was him stringing me along, could never decide whether he really wanted to be with me or not. He has chosen other girls over me several times. I would tell him if he didn’t stop talking to these other girls then I would break up with him and I was tired of being his second choice. And he would choose them. Even when I told him to get out of my life he always came back. Ok…having said that, we eventually sorted things out. He decided he wanted to be with me and we have been together straight for almost 3 years now. He has made so much progress and he is much different and a lot more caring.
Ok..so my question is…he has been texting this girl from work. I have confronted him about it before. The first time he got mad. And it took him forever for me to get it out of me that I still have trouble trusting him, I know no guy wants to have a jealous girlfriend. And I hate coming off that way but I feel also I have a good reason to be cautious. I just hate bringing it up but he has been texting her often and he rarely texts people. What should I do?
I should also add that another reason why I am suspicious is because everytime I hear him talk about this girl he says how much of a bimbo or a ***** she is. If that is the case why does he text her, almost flirting with her if that is what he really thinks? Thanks for the answers I’m just really confused.

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Answer by dr.golgi 356
um.. first off I’d like to say just don’t worry about it never just get all upset when your guy is just talking or even texting another girl i mean if he ends up liking her more than you and going off with her than he’s not right for you and everything works it self out and if not than nothing happens so you shouldn’t worry about it. also its probably just a friend i have a lot of girls that im friends with who can be bit ch es
so yeah

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My boyfriend talks to other girls?

Question by stacielovve: My boyfriend talks to other girls?
ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months. Im not my boyfriends type, Im a white girl i dyed my hair black and i have pale skin im 5’5 96pounds . His type of girl is a tan skin brown eyes brown hair, and also short, and a girl that wears hollister, so kinda preppy. and knowing that im NOTHING like his type has made me insacure. He texts and talks to girls that are his type and it bothers me, i get so incredibly uncomfortable it makes me feel so sick. I know he should be allowd friends that are girls, but why cant i accept it? I feel like i need to accept him tlkaing to other girls. Its natural for him to have friends of the oppisit sex. I just dont understand why him talking to them is making me so upset. We almost broke up over this last night. he said im too controling, witch i probably am. this isnt healthy me getting upset about this right? How do i over come this? how can i be ok with him talking to other girls, even girls that are his type. I jsut want our relationship to be ok, no stress. especialy no stress over other people. When its just me and him we are perfect together. we are so happy together.. then when someone else comes in the picture, even if its just a text, I get insanly upset. it makes me so upset i throw up over this. Please , i neeed some good advise to make me feel ok with him tlakign to girls, even ones that are his type.
(i know he would NEVER cheat on me, and i know he would NEEVR get any thoguhts about any other girl, this is why im so confused as to why i feel this way. i trust him.)

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Answer by hahaha
Ask him how it makes him feel when you text other guys, and that you just feel a little jealous. In every healthy relationship theres a little jealousy. I think you just need to trust him, and if things work out then perfect, if not, then it wasnt meant to be. DOnt break up over this, and dont stress about it anymore.

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My boyfriend keeps flirting, texting and sexting girls :(?

Question by fade to black: My boyfriend keeps flirting, texting and sexting girls :(?
So my boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years, we don’t really fight and i think we have a good relationship but he will not stop flirting, texting or sexting girls. like i have guy friends who i talk to and hang out with and i told him if you want to hang out with girls you are friends with that is fine but he tends to take it past the friend level. the girls often send him naked pictures and there conversations are very sexual and inappropriate for a guy with a girlfriend for 2 years. also he never tells any of the girls he has a girlfriend. like im not telling him to stop texting or hanging out with friends i just want him to keep it friendly. I do love him more then anything and we have been together for over 2 years, i just don’t know what to do.

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Answer by Last time
Break up with him or deal with it

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my boyfriend has been texting this girl…i need advice!?

Question by 1qaz2wsx: my boyfriend has been texting this girl…i need advice!?
so i just found out that my boyfriend has been texting this girl for a while.
i didn’t know this…the chick says that they are Just friends..
but my friends saw texts on her phone of her and my bf talking about taking a shower together and that would be “super hot, but you would never do it.” <--that's what he said. when i asked the chick about it, she said that it was just joking around. but i guess he did call her "babe" on multiple occasions. so my question is, i know this isn't cheating, but they've been flirting and he's called her hot and "babe" is that ok? or should i be mad about that... Best answer:

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Texting a girl who has a boyfriend?

Question by mau5: Texting a girl who has a boyfriend?
I met this girl from my college orientation in late June and we basically talked a lot and hung out the whole time we were there. I got her number and she added me on Facebook. It turned out she has a boyfriend. I was a little dumbfounded when I found out she had a boyfriend because she didn’t really act like she had one. But thats not really the problem here. Obviously I don’t have a crush on her because I just met her (although she is very pretty), but I want to get to know her better because we have a lot in common and we got along very well at orientation. I just want a good friendship with her. I’ve been debating whether I should text her or not because of the fact that she has a boyfriend. I’m not scared of the boyfriend, I just don’t want to be that d-bag who flirts with someone’s girlfriend. So how should I approach this? I don’t want to screw anything up. And by the way, there’s no chance of us hanging out to get to each other better because she lives on the west coast and I live on the east coast lol. Thanks for all your help! And sorry this was a little long.
I probably won’t get a “black eye.” I’ve seen what the guy looks like and I could take him in a fight because I train and know how to fight and wrestle. Didn’t expect these kinds of answers -_-
Yea I know have to avoid flirting

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Answer by Tala
You’re asking for trouble. Don’t waste your time!

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My boyfriend has been texting another girl, what should I do?

Question by Jessica Harvey: My boyfriend has been texting another girl, what should I do?
We have been together 1 year and 4 months. I am currently 37 weeks pregnant. He never gave me any reason not to trust him before we live together he is always with me if he is not at work. I went to turn his phone off the other morning and for the first time in our entire relationship I looked through his phone and noticed two girls he was texting. He was calling them boo boo and babe and one of the girls sent him pictures (not naked or bad at all just a picture of herself dressed up in the mirror) and his reply was “I already got that one women you trying to be slick” so I have no idea how long this has been going on. He says it hasn’t been more then a month but one of the girls I know he just got her number. Later when I asked he said these girls were his coworkers. I never been in a relationship where I had so much trust for someone and now I just feel so hurt dumb and betrayed. I tried breaking up with him and I told him he needs to move out and we are done and he can talk to as many girls as he wants. He says he’s so sorry and he’s done talking to them and he never meant to hurt me and he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me and he doesn’t want to be with anyone else and we have a family and I can’t give up on that. I love him very much but father of my child or not I don’t want to be mistreated and I don’t know if I will ever be able to trust him again…I understand people flirt with coworkers that’s expected but when you take it out of work your crossing a line. I don’t know if I should break up our home that was/is so full of love or give him a second chance and try to rebuild my trust. It’s a hard situation. He says I owe him a second chance because 4 months after we were together I had some friends at my apartment and I went to bed with my best girl friend and during the night my guy friend got off the couch and came and layed with the two of us but early in the morning my girl friend got up and left and he came to my house and seen this guy in bed with me and even though I know nothing happened, he didn’t and gave me a second chance and rebuilt his trust for me and now look how far we have come…and I get where he is coming from but in my mind I know I didn’t do anything wrong and I didn’t have control of the kid laying in my bed whereas he intentionally contacted these girls got their numbers was calling them names he calls me and sending pictures… any advice of personal testimonials would be great I am very confused.

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Answer by Driving naked 69
Look. We all F up….. We are not perfect.
Give him another chance. If he does it again than….
time to move on. Fair???

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my boyfriend is texting another girl, is he cheating?

Question by Brittanie: my boyfriend is texting another girl, is he cheating?
I noticed that my boyfriend this weekend was constantly texting this other girl when I was with him all weekend. I never actually read the texts but I noticed he was texting her the whole time. At one point I did see one text from her that said “I miss you times a thousand! :)” and when i saw it he grabbed his phone quickly. Later on when i casually asked him who he was texting he said his friend lauren but this was at 2am.. when i know it was that other girl because thats who he was talking to all day. I have no reason to not trust him its just the fact that he pulled his phone away so quickly when he saw that i saw the text from her. I always saw in the past that this same girl was drawling pictures for him and posting them on his facebook wall in the past 2 or 3 weeks and saying “this is why i didnt text you back! hehe” I want to ask him like what the deal is like if shes just a friend or something without automatically accusing him of cheating or anything. Does anyone have any ideas to how to go about it?
thanks!

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Answer by Alex
Just because he is texting someone else it doesn’t mean he is cheating. If he was cheating he would blow you off and go hang with her instead. They are just friends it seems like.

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